Six Stages of Separation

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It has been quite a while now(about six months) since I had written down something other than code or emails. I have lost count of number of times I wished to write down something but I couldn’t because I had an obsession to write the perfect opening sentence and I wasn’t able to nail it down. The further I stayed away from writing, the more elusive that perfect opening sentence became. Today, I may not have the perfect opening sentence again but I have this itch, the itch to write something else.

Since this separation gap from writing is the predominant thought on my mind today, I would like to share my thoughts on different stages of separation one may experience depending on the length of separation.

1. Realization: It may take a few days or sometimes few months to realize that you are missing something. You are not sure what it is but you could sense that something is amiss.

2. Investigation: Once you realized that something is wrong, you try to diagnose the symptoms and look for the possible causes. Sometimes, you wouldn’t be able to nail down your investigation to one thing. When that happens, you are likely to just continue on with your life. However, if you are able to find the cause, you proceed to next stage.

3.  Circumspection: At this stage, you know what you are missing but you still doubt your process of investigation or even deny it. You ignore the results of this preliminary investigation and continue on with your life.

4. Acceptance: Sometimes, you do accept the cause as reasonable. When, you accept it, you do a post-analysis about its importance in your life. You ask yourself if you should do something to get it back or whether you should let it drift further apart. Depending on the choice you make, you reach either Resignation stage or Redemption stage.

5a. Resignation: Although, giving up is considered as a characteristic of pessimistic person, sometimes it is the wiser choice to make than reach a stage of obsession to get that thing back in your life. Sometimes, the decision to let it drift apart is not in your hands and come to terms with it. In the cases where this decision lies in your hands, you reevaluate if you have changed so much by this time that that thing holds much lesser importance now. If so, you decide to let it drift apart and come to peace with the fact that it occupies only historical significance in your life events.

5b. Redemption: In this stage, you make plans on how to get it back in your life. You reiterate it’s importance in your life and convince yourself to make determined and wholehearted efforts to get it back. It may take some time to get it back but if you are determined enough, you will definitely get it back!

6. Obsession: It is rarely reached when you make efforts to get that something back in a case where you have drifted too far. When you have drifted too far from that thing, efforts to get it back is very likely to make the things that are important in your life meander away.  This is a dangerous stage to reach as the impact of pursuing it on your life would either be devastating or spectacular.

My vision of India in 2025

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Last year I had written an essay on my vision of my 50th birthday for applying for OPJEMS scholarship. Last year I wasn’t selected for interview round but this year I have been selected for the interview.
This year they had asked to write an essay on my vision on India in 2025. This is what i had written this time around. Let’s see if this piece of writing was good enough to earn me a scholarship this time (despite my performance in the interview).

“My vision of India for the year 2025 is that India in 2025 has entered the ranks of developed nations and not tagged as a developing nation. The tag of developing nation has been attached to India for far too long given the amount of resources available. There are several fronts on which India has changed in the last 20 years.

To start with, let me put forward my vision of India’s political system. The people of India are satisfied with the administration of the ruling democratic party. The politicians are no longer looked upon as tainted. They are working sincerely for their constituency. The reports of cases of corrupt officials have died down in numbers. The common man is no more dreadful of the office works involving a visit to public offices such as the municipal corporation.

Next, comes the vision of a clean and green India. The people are aware of the importance of the trees. The cities are planned properly so that there is enough fresh air for everyone to take in. The drainage systems are working perfectly. There is no problem of water-logging, especially in the rainy season. There are trees planted on the roadside at regular intervals.

On the social front, I think India in 2025 is a secular country in a true sense. The people are broad-minded in terms of tolerance to others religion and beliefs. The incidents of religious disputes and riots have become a thing of past in 2025. There exist peace and harmony among the people of my country.

On the economic front, the gap between the rich and poor has been filled to some extent. The people have realized that population explosion is a root cause to their misery and poverty. The Government is working sincerely to provide an earning to all the people of India through the Five Year Plans and others plans of similar intents.

So far, I have discussed the vision of India in 2025 in which I can play a small part. I can’t expect myself to bring all the changes unless my countrymen share my vision and are willing to work along with to realize the vision. Together we can make use of the resources properly to project India as a power on the world map.

Now, speaking on the technology front, of which I hope to be a part of, I see India as having developed a scientific community on a large scale. There are a lot of hard-working scientists who are putting their efforts to make sure that India doesn’t lack behind in the technology. Now,there are some Nobel laureates in India as well.

What can I contribute to my vision? I will try to work sincerely in the best interests of my country. I will try to ensure that I can make an impact in the technological fields of computer science. Apart from that, I would try to act as a good citizen of India. I would try to spread my vision to my locality and convince others to work sincerely for the progress of our country, for their future, for the future of India. ”


imagining myself at the 50th birthday.

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I had written this essay applying for opjems scholarship 2007.
“It’s a quite strange question which really made me feel that someday i would become a 50 year old.
First of all,i hope that i live upto that age .thinking like a 50 year old person is like putting myself in the footsteps of my father. Now it becomes somewhat sensible for me to imagine what i would like the critical stakeholders of my life to say about me on my 50th birthday .
I would like my spouse to express the love she has in her heart for me. I would be elated to hear that i had acted as a responsible,loving,caring and affectionate person. I had always tried to support her mentally (and economically too!). i have always behaved as a friend to her and not acted like a dictator who would impose his orders on his servant. I wish she could say that she really loves me very much and would continue doing so with her love increasing for me day by day.i wish she says that all these years of our marriage has been a real joy to pass by and i have never let her down or left her alone to face the storms of time.
I would like my children to say that they are really proud of me. I have always acted like a friend cum father to them. I have helped them guide in reaching their destinies and choosing the right path of profession. I would wish that they say that they have never been forced by me to take decisons that were senseless. I wish they say that they really appreciate the decisions i have taken about them and they are really proud of the culture that i have inculcated in them. I wish they would say that they really like my morals and would try to abide by them in their own lives.
I would like my colleagues to say that i have acted with them in a friendly manner .they really appreciate my abilities and are proud of having the experience to work with me.they have enjoyed working under me and i have always helped them in moments of crisis.i wish they would say that they would always support me and help me get over my worse times.
That’s all,i could imagine.”